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"Unlock the Secrets: 3 Everyday Habits of the Emotionally Strong That Will Leave You Begging for More!"

Added on August 29, 2026 inFREE ASTROLOGY

What if I told you that mastering your mental and emotional strength might just be the secret ingredient to navigating life’s twists and turns – especially when that pesky Mercury retrograde comes around? Trust me, controlling your mind rather than letting it control you is like having a superpower, and it’s one we can all cultivate! Picture this: instead of succumbing to those spirals of self-doubt and negativity, you can wave them goodbye and focus on what truly matters, whether that’s enjoying precious moments with your kid or tackling that work deadline ahead. And hey, when faced with a too-snarky comment from your partner, wouldn’t it be great to respond with grace instead of a catty comeback? The journey to emotional resilience isn’t about controlling every thought but about understanding which ones to embrace and which to toss aside. So, are you ready to train your mind like a pro? Let’s dive into some habits that can supercharge your mental strength! LEARN MORE.

Here’s how I think about mental and emotional strength: Mental strength is the ability to control your mind instead of being controlled by it.

For example:

Instead of getting sucked into spirals of self-criticism and shame, mental strength is what allows you to redirect your attention and thinking somewhere else, less destructive — like that conversation you’re having with your son or the report you’re supposed to be drafting for work.
Rather than impulsively responding to your spouse’s sarcastic comment with a witty jab of your own, you are able to resist the impulse and either say nothing or mention assertively that you don’t appreciate the sarcasm.

Now, obviously there are aspects of your mind that you can’t control. Whether a specific memory pops into mind, for example. Or whether you feel afraid of almost getting run over by a car.

So, becoming emotionally strong doesn’t mean you can exert complete control over everything that goes on in your head. Mental strength means understanding which parts of your mind you can control and being able to do it well when it matters. For example:

You may not be able to control whether a random worry pops into your mind. But you can control whether you keep worrying about it.
You can’t control whether someone says something insensitive to you. But you can control what you say (or think) in response.

One of the many benefits of becoming mentally and emotionally strong is that it’s one of the best ways to improve how you feel emotionally:

The only way to lower your anxiety in the long term is to learn how to control your mental patterns of worry.
You’ll only be able to get a handle on your anger issues when you learn to control your mental patterns of rumination.
It’s hard to break the cycle of low self-esteem without learning how to manage your mental pattern of self-criticism.

In other words: If you want to be emotionally resilient, you must train yourself to be mentally strong. And like any kind of training, building emotional strength requires a commitment to good habits and practices over time. Here are three small habits that will slowly but surely improve your mental strength and emotional resilience.

People with strong mental and emotional strength usually do these things casually:

1. They’re honest about how they feel

mentally and emotionally strong woman being honest about how she feels emotionally Josep Suria / Shutterstock

This habit is so simple that it’s incredibly easy to miss. Now, you might be thinking to yourself: I think I’m pretty honest about how I feel. Maybe. But I’d be willing to bet you’re not quite as honest about your emotions — especially the really difficult ones — as you’d like to believe.

For example: Suppose you had a big argument with your spouse last night. And as you get into work this morning, one of your coworkers asks you how you’re doing. And without giving it a second thought, you immediately say, “I’m good. How are you doing?”

This is a textbook case of emotional dishonesty. Now, you’re probably thinking to yourself: I mean, I know that I’m not feeling great this morning because of that argument. I just didn’t want to say anything about it since it’s not really appropriate to talk about personal issues at work.

First of all: do you really know how you feel? I mean, on some vague, superficial level, I’m sure you know that you feel upset. But what emotions specifically are you feeling?

For example, are you feeling angry? If so, what type of anger: frustrated, mad, irritated?
Or maybe you’re feeling hurt… But what type of hurt? Do you feel sad or disappointed? Regretful or ashamed?
Or maybe — and much more likely — you’re feeling some combination of emotions… Mostly disappointed, but also a bit mad and anxious.

Unless you squeaked in a therapy session before work this morning or did some serious self-reflective journaling before bed, I doubt you actually understand how you’re feeling with any kind of granularity.

My second point is that even if it’s inappropriate to go into detail about your marital problems at work, that doesn’t mean you can’t talk about how you feel at all. For example, in response to your coworker’s question, you could have said:

I’m doing okay, but I had kind of a stressful day yesterday.
Not too bad, but Jesse and I had a tough conversation last night, and I’m still trying to make sense of it all.

Here’s why this matters:

Even though you may know intellectually that you’re not feeling okay, by avoiding them, you’re teaching your brain that those feelings are bad or dangerous (because when we run away from something, our brain understandably intuits that it might be dangerous).
And if you’re in the habit of avoiding talking about how you feel, you’re really sending your brain a strong message that painful feelings are things to be avoided and feared.
And when you train your brain to fear your own feelings, that is a set-up for emotional fragility and pain.

Luckily, you can teach your brain the opposite message: That, however painful, difficult emotions aren’t dangerous; you must simply be willing to talk about them honestly, both to yourself and others. This doesn’t mean you have to go around pouring out your heart to every coworker and Starbucks barista you encounter throughout the day.

But taking three seconds to acknowledge your emotions honestly, rather than avoiding them, is a powerful way to build your mental strength and emotional resilience over time.

2. Emotionally strong people resist unnecessary time travel

mentally and emotionally strong man resisting mental time travel voronaman / Shutterstock

The majority of emotional suffering is a direct result of too much mental time travel. Mental time travel: what’s that? Mental time travel is the amazing ability we humans have to imagine the future or relive past events from memory.

And everything from building bridges and rocket ships to getting everything you need at the grocery store depends in large part on your ability to mentally travel through time — imagining possibilities in the future and recalling memories from the past.

But like any tool, mental time travel can be used well or poorly. Think about it:

A welding torch is a great tool for heating things, but you probably wouldn’t want to use it to make hot cocoa.
Toenail clippers are really good for cutting toenails, but you probably wouldn’t want to use one to split firewood.

Whether you’re trying to make hot cocoa, trim your toenails, or lower your anxiety, everything depends on using the right tool for the job. Unfortunately, it’s easy to make the mistake of using a tool that’s really effective in many situations in every situation:

No matter how incredible you may be at using Excel to create everything from financial models to recipe catalogs, if you tried to write a novel in Excel, you’d be setting yourself up for a lot of unnecessary stress and frustration.
Similarly, no matter how good you are at imagining possible problems in your job as a risk assessor for your company, lying in bed at 2:00 am imagining all the potential downsides of not sleeping well tonight is not a particularly effective way to lower your anxiety or fall asleep.

So, despite all your success with mental time travel in certain aspects of your life, you can’t assume it will help you in all areas. A few examples:

Anxiety. The vast majority of anxiety comes from unhelpful thinking about the future. And just because imagining negative possibilities in the future is helpful sometimes doesn’t mean it can’t be utterly unhelpful in others. Which means the key to lowering your anxiety is being smarter about when you choose to use your tool of imagining problems in the future.
Shame. Many instances of depression and low self-esteem are driven by powerful mental habits of self-criticism and self-judgment. In some situations, and to some degree, reflecting on past mistakes, for example, can be very helpful and productive, if a little painful. But that same mental habit can be horribly destructive if you let it run wild.
Aggression and resentment. Just as reflecting on your own mistakes can easily turn into destructive self-criticism, ruminating on other people’s mistakes and shortcomings can quickly lead to excessive anger, resentment, aggression, and conflict.

As an antidote to destructive mental time travel, cultivate the ability to hold your attention in the present moment:

When you’re stopped at a stoplight for 30 seconds, just keep your attention on the music of the radio instead of replaying that argument with your partner last night.
When you’re going for a run, practice keeping your attention on what it’s like to run and be outdoors instead of worrying about how badly your work presentation might go tomorrow.

Remember: The ability to mentally time travel is a tool. Use it mindfully, not mindlessly.

3. People like this distinguish their wants versus values

mentally and emotionally strong woman distinguishing her wants from her values Inside Creative House / Shutterstock

A big part of emotional strength is the ability to resist unhelpful impulses:

You’ve committed to working out five days a week, but this evening, you’re feeling lazy and want to just chill on the couch and watch TV.
A coworker says something rude, and you feel the impulse to say something snarky and mean right back at them.
You have an uncomfortable conversation you need to have with your spouse, but you’re afraid of how they’ll take it and feel like putting it off.

All too often, our best intentions are sabotaged by our own minds through impulsive reactions, cravings, fears, and the like. But the trick is that it’s difficult to simply resist an unhelpful impulse.

For example: If you’re feeling the impulse to eat a second serving of dessert, simply repeating to yourself: Don’t eat the dessert, don’t eat the dessert, don’t eat the dessert probably isn’t going to be all that helpful — largely because your focus is still on the craving and the dessert!

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The better way to resist unhealthy impulses and cravings is to shift your focus onto your values. Instead of trying to force yourself to not eat the second serving, what if you put your focus onto why you want to resist that impulse in the first place?

What if you took out a pen and paper and listed 3 good reasons why you don’t want to eat the dessert?
In other words, why do you value not eating a second serving of dessert? Surely not for its own sake…
Instead, you probably want to resist that craving because you value losing weight and improving your health, or looking good at the beach this summer, or being supportive of your spouse who’s trying to lose weight.
Then, once you’ve figured out at least one good value behind your desire to resist the dessert, clarify it — what are the benefits of losing weight and getting healthy? What will you be able to do when you’re slimmer and at a healthy weight? Imagine how it will feel to be able to play basketball with the guys again.

Here’s the thing: Instead of trying to resist your unhealthy impulses, outcompete them with your values.

Unhealthy impulses have a motivational pull. Whether it’s the craving for chocolate or the ego-boost that would come with criticizing someone, there’s always some reason why we’re pulled in unhealthy directions. But you can outcompete the motivational pull of momentary impulses by identifying and clarifying your values: what you really want, your ideals.

At the end of the day, true values and ideals have far more motivating power than momentary whims or impulses. The problem is we rarely take the time to remind ourselves of our values and make them specific enough to feel compelling.

A surprising amount of mental strength comes from getting in the habit of distinguishing momentary wants from genuine values. And the more you practice it, the easier you’ll find it to resist the things you don’t want and take action on the things you do.

Mental and emotional strength is the ability to control your mind rather than be controlled by it. And it’s a skill anyone can improve with practice. Here are three small habits that will help you build mental strength:

Be honest about how you feel
Resist unnecessary mental time travel
Distinguish wants vs values

Nick Wignall is a psychologist and writer who shares practical advice on emotional health and well-being. He is the founder of The Friendly Minds newsletter.