Is it just me, or does it feel like we’re living in a world where humility has become a rare gem, much like finding a decent plot in a B-list movie? It’s fascinating, isn’t it? In an age dominated by social media and the pressure to project an image of perfection, we often forget that a sprinkle of humility can unravel so many of life’s tangles. Picture it: your buddy, a classic Gemini, lost in his relentless pursuit of external validation, grappling with a brain loop that feels as limiting as a poorly written screenplay. What happens when we flip the script and approach our challenges with more humility? Let’s dive into this thought-provoking exploration of turning ego into insight. LEARN MORE.

I have a longtime client with a destructive brain loop. We cracked this problem, ten years ago, but it’s come back with a vengeance. He’s a Gemini. We brainstorm, jointly.

It was this process I hit in the idea the majority of a person’s problems could be solved with a bit (or even any) humility. That might sound stupid, but let’s see.

When someone lacks humility, they externalize everything.  It’s always the other person’s problem or lack. Consequently, they never work on themselves. Talk about a vicious loop!

Un-humble people also live in a war with reality.  “It should be like this. I should feel this way. This shouldn’t happen.” Humility accepts: “This is what’s happening or what’s happened. Now what?”  Also, humble people can learn. They can say, “I didn’t know that.”  They can ask for help. “Can you help me with this?”

Humility also stops you from wanting to everything to everyone… and having to prove and maintain that, day in and day out. Ugh.  Keep in mind, too much humility is just another form of ego.

This is a radical idea in an era where everyone optimizes for attention.  Still, I think it’s correct.  Next time you’re stuck, ask, “What would I do if I were humble?”