Ever wonder what lurks beneath the glossy surface of a marriage? We often picture a partner wearing their past like a badge of honor—or at least a charming anecdote to share over dinner. But what’s a bit more unsettling is the notion of a partner devoid of history altogether. After all, each of us carries an emotional suitcase filled to the brim with struggle, sentiment, and yes, past relationships. Recently, YourTango delved deep into the shadows, asking a brave cohort of wives, “What’s the most painful secret you hide from your husband?” Their confessions are eye-opening and more than a little relatable. You might be surprised to discover what’s being tucked away behind closed doors. Ready for a peek into these heartfelt revelations? Buckle up as we explore 13 wives sharing their most profound secrets. It’s a wild ride, and you won’t want to miss it! LEARN MORE.
What’s even stranger than a romantic partner with a past? A partner with no past at all. After a certain point, we’ve all got baggage in the form of personal struggles, previous relationships, and experiences beyond our control.
YourTango asked real wives “What’s the most painful secret you hide from your husband?” Check out some of their shocking responses.
“I’m 32 and have slept with just two guys.” —Sarah V., 32
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“I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety when I was 17.” —Jane, 24
No one should ever feel ashamed of their mental health. The World Health Organization reports that 8.1% of adults in the U.S. have an anxiety disorder.
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“I’m a young widow. My husband died in an accident when I was 30.” —Mary, 34
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“I’ve cheated in every relationship I’ve ever been in.” —Mackenzie W., 30
Is ‘once a cheater, always a cheater’ a true statement? Research from 2018 found that unfortunately, it often is.
“I can’t have kids.” —Lia, 37
“I’ve always been with more partners than the person I’m dating, so I refuse to share ‘my number’.” —Bailey, 28
“I used to be in another relationship that my husband didn’t know about … and I never want to do that again!” —Shayla, 26
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“In the last few years, I lost almost 80 pounds. I look great dressed, but feel self-conscious about loose skin once the clothes come off.” —Stephanie, 33
“Sometimes, I go to the ATM and take out cash when I don’t want my husband to know the amount of money I’m spending on something.” —Alex, 38
“I have a secret bank account and save money in it, in case he isn’t able to work anymore due to mental illness.” —Caitlin, 48
“It’s not that I want to go be with that other man, but he’s a truly deep, connected friend and he serves my emotional needs differently than my husband. He knows about my best guy friend whom I’ve known since we were kids together — but he doesn’t know this guy at all. I know I should feel guilty but I don’t because I know I’m never going to have a physical relationship with this other guy.” — Jill, 42
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“I tried to bring it up once when we were dating and he was so weird about it, I’ve just never told him anymore about it. He wouldn’t get it, and that’s fine. He doesn’t need to.” —Charlotte, 33
“My husband isn’t super close with this guy, but they’re friends. This guy DMS me tons of fire emojis on the pics and videos I post and says things like, ‘You’re looking hot!’ that I find inappropriate. But my husband would end up starting drama if I told him, so I just ignore them.” —Tina, 39
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