Signed, another Greek Fighter

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Hi, Fighter! You’re not too much and you’re definitely not ruthless.  Ruthless people don’t lose sleep over whether they’re ruthless.

Becoming a mother often triggers a primal, protective hyper-vigilance. Your nervous system may be saying: “I’m responsible for this child’s survival, so I must win every resource battle.”   Rather than live in a combat zone, you’re better off to create boundaries that protect the sanctuary. 

A battleground requires constant noise, defense, and retaliation. A sanctuary just requires a locked door. Lower the cortisol level in the home. Switch from defending to defining.  Quiet boundaries vs constant battles. No more, “Mom’s scorched earth”.

To begin, the next time a power struggle arises, give yourself 24 hours to think about it. This is for you, but you’re also modeling this for your daughters. Contain your own emotions. Show them they can handle their own intensity.

True strength  is quiet and comes from the core. You can disagree with someone and walk away from a bad situation without needing to fight them, first. Practice low energy responses for troublesome people.  “This isn’t open for discussion”.  Don’t cast pearls before swine!

Teach your daughter’s their energy is precious. Show them how to direct it into things that are positive and productive for themselves and others.

Oh!  Your daughters are also not “too much”. They are unique individuals with creative (sun) power (Pluto) and much to offer the world. I can say this for sure, because the thought of excising every sun Pluto person from my life, makes me sick to my stomach.  Your daughter generate energy. Teach them to manage it. Outsiders can mind their own business.

What’s your advice for this mother?