Romance on television—oh, where do I even start? It’s like watching old reruns of a beloved sitcom that’s now got a bad case of the hiccups. Sure, we’ve come a long way since the days of unrealistic love stories, but have we really improved? Sometimes I wonder if the writers are sitting behind their desks, cracking jokes about “how to make everyone suffer” rather than crafting relationships that feel real and raw. While tons of modern shows are tripping over themselves, trying to find that next big love story, classic TV romances still manage to tug at our heartstrings. Take Claire and Jamie from Outlander—their love defies the very fabric of time! Or how about Spencer and Alexandra from 1923? Their passion is as fiery as a burning ranch at high noon. And don’t get me started on the ethereal love story of Kat and Thomas in The Way Home. These couples embody commitment, strength, and that juicy devotion that seems so scarce today—like trying to find a needle in a haystack.
So, what’s up with the present-day romances? Relationships often feel like they’re built on shaky foundations of manufactured drama—will they or won’t they? Does the term “charming protector” give anyone the heebie-jeebies these days? Perhaps it brings up more questions than answers: can love really exist without a little bit of traditional romance? Or is our idea of love so muddled that strength has become synonymous with emotional isolation? Let’s dive in and figure out what’s missing in those contemporary love stories—after all, we all want to believe that love is still out there waiting for us. Ready to explore? Click to LEARN MORE.
Romance on television has evolved, but not always for the better.
While modern TV often fails to craft compelling love stories, there’s something undeniably rich and fulfilling about romances that transcend time — sometimes literally.
Take Claire and Jamie in Outlander, Spencer and Alexandra in 1923, and Kat and Thomas in The Way Home. These relationships aren’t just about attraction or fleeting passion; they embody a level of commitment, strength, and devotion that feels increasingly rare in contemporary romances.
What sets them apart? Their men care for them wholly and completely.
They allow their women to be exactly who they are because they are “manly” enough to love a strong woman, and the women, in turn, are strong enough to allow their men to protect and cherish them without fear of it threatening their agency.
On Outlander, Jamie Fraser is the gold standard of an enduring romantic hero. His love for Claire is unwavering, built on mutual respect and a fierce protectiveness that never diminishes her independence.
He admires her intelligence, her passion, and her unwillingness to conform to societal expectations.
Rather than feeling threatened, he revels in her strength, and in return, Claire trusts him to be her equal partner, protector, and lover.
Spencer and Alexandra on 1923 have a whirlwind romance, but one that is rooted in raw, undeniable devotion.
Spencer, a hardened man who has survived war and loss, immediately recognizes Alexandra as his future, his home. He fights for her, body and soul, and she never once hesitates to match his intensity.
Alexandra doesn’t see Spencer’s need to protect her as a slight against her own strength; she welcomes it because she knows it comes from love, not control.
Then there’s The Way Home, where Kat and Thomas’ love story takes shape across centuries.
Their connection is undeniable, but unlike the other two examples, this one ends in heartbreak — not because their love isn’t real, but because Kat ultimately chooses to let him go.
The show suggests that love alone isn’t always enough, but what makes Thomas so compelling is that he, like Jamie and Spencer, adores Kat for exactly who she is.
There’s no attempt to mold her into something else, no insecurity about her strength — only steadfast love. That love allowed her to return to her own time, fully aware of what her modern love should be.
Why, then, do modern TV romances so often fall short?
Too often, relationships are built on manufactured conflict, endless will-they-won’t-they dynamics, or a reluctance to portray men as protectors and women as receptive to being loved in that way.
There’s a fear of traditional gender roles, even when they can exist in a framework of mutual respect and balance.
Today’s love stories sometimes mistake independence for emotional isolation, forgetting that true strength isn’t about rejecting love but embracing it without losing oneself.
The best romances don’t hinge on outdated notions of dominance and submission, nor do they strip away the complexities of human connection.
Instead, they thrive on the idea that love is about partnership — a deep, unshakeable devotion where neither person is diminished.
That’s why the romance in these time-transcending stories feels so powerful: the men are strong enough to love wholly, and the women are strong enough to accept that love without fear.
Maybe that’s what’s missing in today’s TV romances. And maybe it’s time to bring it back.
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