I’ve been pondering the concept of alienation lately, and it’s got me thinking—could there be a silver lining to feeling left out? Traditionally, we perceive alienation as a negative experience, something akin to being shunned or cast aside. But what if stepping away from the group could actually lead to personal growth and authenticity? After chatting with my husband about the definition of alienation, I realized our interpretations couldn’t be more different. He saw it as a painful rejection, while I viewed it as a chance for self-discovery.
Reflecting on my own experiences, I can’t help but notice that every time I felt alienated, it was often a result of my own choice, a personal venture into the unknown rather than a mere rejection. The same goes for my son, who faced alienation from his friends as he pursued academic success. It all raises a fascinating question: when is alienation a necessary step towards empowerment, and how can it serve as a catalyst for living a more authentic life? Is it possible that our fear of alienation is holding us back, rather than protecting us? Join me as we explore the nuances of alienation, its implications on individuality, and how breaking away from the pack might just be the best decision we ever make. If you’re intrigued, let’s dive deeper into this topic together—LEARN MORE.
I’ve been thinking about being alienated. It seems more positive than negative to me, which I know is not how the word is used. I started thinking about it, hard. I went as far as to check the definition with my husband. “What’s alienation mean to you?” I asked.
“It means they shun you,” he responded.
See? That’s negative.
But when I think about every time I have every been alienated, the shunning seemed to benefit me. I simply did not belong in the group I was in. The group was going one way. I was going another.
I thought about my children; my son in particular. There was a point where he became alienated from his friend group. It happened because he started to apply himself in school. His friends were slacking. My son has Aries and sun conjunct Saturn. He’s ambitious, so you can see how the split had to happen, in order for him to develop and move in the direction that was right for him.
I have thought about all the times I have been alienated. Without fail, it was an inside job. I alienated myself.
One very clear example of this; I’d left home at fifteen years old. At one point I wound myself sitting in the dirt with people smoking pot. I was not a pot smoker. I don’t like sitting in dirt either, so I alienated myself from this group, right away, rather than conforming to their culture.
Now I understand alienation can happen in other ways. You steal from your family and they eject you. But from what I can discern, from my small sample, more often than not, the alienated person winds up better off, if “better off” means he or she is living true. I mean, really. Capricorn sitting in a ditch, smoking pot. I thought I better stand up and go get a job, yes?
The threat of alienation keeps a person towing the line, but what if the line is stupid or just plain wrong for you? Better to alienate yourself, from what I can see. It takes courage.
I think this is a Pluto in Aquarius topic. The group expels the shadow person. But it’s also about empowering the individual.
It the group is dark or evil, killing the individual, especially their creativity (Leo), then you’re likely far better off to alienate yourself. See what you can do, independently, unhindered by your attachment to the Borg.
What do you think? Why do we view this word the way we do? Have you ever been alienated / part of a group who alienated someone?