Ever wonder what’s really lurking beneath the surface of your relationships—like the cosmic equivalent of a shark circling just out of sight while you’re trying to enjoy the sunny beach of everyday life? I was chatting with a gal, worried about those hidden undercurrents in her solid, long-lasting marriage. Here’s the twist: almost everyone’s got a few mysterious shadows beneath the waves, and it’s not always a bad thing. Just like Mercury’s mischievous dance today, stirring up all sorts of internal conflicts and mixed signals, relationships play host to those little ambivalences that bubble up now and then. The trick is knowing when to lean in and when to let the tide carry it away. So, how good are you at giving your partner the space to navigate their inner seas—especially when you’re caught in their crosscurrents? Where’s your Venus in all of this cosmic mix? Dive in with me. LEARN MORE
I worked a gal, worried about what might be lurking beneath the surface of her marriage. Her marriage was good and solid and had been long-lasting but she had these concerns.
In reality there are always things “lurking beneath the surface” when people interact. It’s not necessarily bad. People get together to work out their internal conflicts. Most people feels ambivalent about most things at some point.
Overreacting to such a normal process does not make sense. Either does expecting a person to feel 100% positive about you, 100% of the time.
It’s easy to become focused on a tiny malfunction in a relationship, and blow it out of proportion. Yes, there may be a shark in the sea. But spending your life trying to locate each of them, hunt them down and kill them is not only not feasible. It also prevents you from enjoying a sunny day on the beach.
A lot of what lurks beneath the surface in a relationship, will work itself out if you give your partner, time and space. As for when something should be addressed, the line for me is when the problem becomes defined. There has to be a distinct pattern that is destructive. If not, I’m going to let it go. I think faith is the play here.
How good are you ate allowing people to work out their internal conflicts, when the internal conflicts they have may involve you? Where’s your Venus?
Auto Amazon Links: No products found.
This will close in 0 seconds
This will close in 0 seconds