Before You Ghost Your Cousin Forever: 3 Surprising Rituals Everyone Secretly Swipes Through First!
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Ever notice how cutting off a family member feels a bit like Mercury retrograde messing with your phone lines—full of static, dropped calls, and no amount of hitting “retry” seems to fix it? Deciding to go no-contact isn’t something folks do on a whim, especially not when that family drama saga has been playing out for years like a never-ending soap opera. Research points to the brutal truth: enduring mental, physical, and emotional turmoil without any sign of a plot twist toward healing often leaves people no choice but to slam that exit door shut. It’s a heavy, heart-wrenching process, tangled with grief over lost potential and the ghosts of what might have been. So before anyone just ghosted their kin, they’ve usually been on a painstaking journey—setting boundaries, weighing fears, and wrestling with the idea that blood might not always be thicker than water. Sound familiar? Maybe the universe is nudging us to ask—how long do you hold on when the stars and your sanity both say “enough”? LEARN MORE
The choice to go no-contact with a family member is not easy. Research suggests that individuals may choose to sever ties due to consistent mental, physical, or emotional suffering inflicted by the family member, coupled with a lack of support or positive change in the relationship.
Usually, the decision weighs heavily and can take years before the choice is made and enacted. The person going no-contact has probably shown signs and made attempts to change the course of the relationship long before the contact is cut.
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Before someone decides to go no-contact with a family member, they typically go through numerous steps, often over many years, to try to salvage the relationship. Despite their best efforts, every interaction might only lead to more pain, prompting a critical question: Is sharing DNA enough of a reason to endure continual emotional damage?
Once the decision to go no-contact is made, it often involves a significant mourning process. This isn’t just mourning the end of the relationship as it exists, but also the loss of what could have been — the potential for a healthy, supportive familial connection. This grief can be profound and complex, akin to mourning someone who is still alive but no longer part of one’s life.
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This process can be particularly painful during holidays or family events that used to include the family member. There may be instances of reconnection over the years, which can serve to remind the person that their decision to go no-contact was necessary. These moments are part of the ongoing journey of mourning and adjustment to a new reality without that family member’s presence.
— Erika Jordan, Dating Coach / NLP Practitioner
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Going no-contact is often fear-based. People become worried about the effect of a family member’s temper on them or their children. They may become increasingly worried about the effect of someone’s addictions on their family.
They disagree about something so intensely (such as politics or religion) that being in the presence of the other person (who often is authoritative) is too stressful and exhausting. This is also based on fear of a negative impact on their health or the health of their children.
— Susan Allan, Life Coach and Founder, The Marriage Forum Inc.
I have found that most people don’t jump to no-contact easily with a family member. Generally, people have tried many times over the years to set boundaries and negotiate interactions. When their boundaries are repeatedly crossed and communication is impossible, no contact feels like the only safe and healthy solution.
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— Mary Kay Cocharo, Couples Therapist
The decision to go no-contact requires significant negative variables to be in place. These variables are usually harmful and have been repeated.
Removing a family member from your life takes courage and strength. No one does it “just because.” The person who is going no-contact has often been at the receiving end of either abuse or neglect from the family member they no longer wish to contact.
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On the other side, the family member who has been cut off from contact can appear to have no idea why they have been removed. Yet, if they took time and deeply reflected on themselves and their impact on familial relations, they might find it was themselves who paved the road that led to no-contact.
Will Curtis is YourTango’s expert editor. Will has over 14 years of experience as an editor covering relationships, spirituality, and human interest topics.
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