We often hear about addicts recovering from an obsession, but what about those of us caught in the more subtle snares of our own minds? Picture it: you offer someone a sunny day, and they still manage to find a cloud in the sky—like no matter what you say, they’ll still serve you a plate of “peas.” These “peas” symbolically represent a negative perspective or rigid mindset, leaving folks stuck in a cycle of self-sabotage. It’s fascinating how some people cling to their old beliefs, refusing to stir the pot of their thoughts—even when it’s growing stale! It gets you wondering, doesn’t it? Why is it so doggone hard to rethink our ruts and break free from our own delusions? Spoiler alert: it’s tough work! So let’s dig into this rich, uncharted territory of self-reflection. Am I hitting close to home for you? What’s your favorite rut? LEARN MORE.
If you’ve ever been around an addict, you see them go and back and back and to their substance of choice. They’re simply powerless over their Corona or whatever the thing may be. If you stick around, invariably you see the person become weaker as the disease progresses.
I have seen the same pattern play out in the same way with people who have a certain mindset or way of reacting to situations. You give them apples, they come up with peas. You give them a sunny day, they come up with peas You give them parsley, sage, rosemary and thyme and they still come up with peas.
“Peas” may be the negative spin they place on everything they encounter.
“Peas” may be some philosophy of set of beliefs they have that have don’t serve them and perhaps never have but the person won’t ever take the time or make the effort (Saturn) to re-think what they believe and perhaps mature it.
This is related to a piece I wrote awhile back: Mixed Messages, Gaslighting, Manipulation… Or A Cowlick In His Psychology. But I am talking about people whose default position on various things destroys their life in a methodical fashion but they just can’t (or won’t) get out of their rut or their sea of delusion because why?
Because it’s hard that’s why.
Am I talking about you? What is your rut?