5 Surprisingly Simple Things Happy People Nail While Miserable Folks Struggle Like It’s Rocket Science
Added on January 30, 2026 inASTROLOGY CARDS
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Ever wondered why chasing success feels a bit like chasing your own tail—especially when it comes to happiness? It’s like the universe is playing cosmic prank on us, whispering sweet nothings about a jackpot of joy waiting just out of reach. Here’s the kicker: happiness isn’t a secret stash buried in a marriage certificate or a fat paycheck that eclipses $75,000 a year. Nope, it’s more like that mischievous Mercury in retrograde, flipping our expectations upside down. The truth? Happiness isn’t “out there” where we’ve been told to look; it’s right under our nose, tucked inside in ways we barely acknowledge. So, what’s a person to do when the usual routes lead to dead ends? The answer lies in choosing joy by weaving simple yet powerful threads into the fabric of our daily lives. Curious to find out how this plays out and why it’s easier said than done (especially if you’re feeling more grumpy than gleeful)? Dive in and discover the five surprisingly simple, yet challenging, habits that can shift your happiness meter—and give those stars in your chart a run for their money. LEARN MORE
Happiness is not something we seek, but rather something we choose. You were sold a bill of goods when it comes to being happy, especially as women. It was never true that success alone would bring you happiness. The problem may not be with you after all.
The problem is that you believed that attaining those things would make you happy, and you are stumped and frustrated that it doesn’t. But it can’t. It never could. Happiness is not out there. It’s inside yourself.
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It’s kind of like when someone gushes about how great something tastes, and you taste i,t and it just tastes okay — you are disappointed. If someone told you the same thing was very good for you and that it tasted okay, you would eat it and have a very different experience. Your expectations would be realistic.
Long-term studies cited in Psychology Today showed that being married does not result in being happier or having a more satisfied life. Women are actually less happy in marriages than men. I am not saying that you should chuck your marriage. I love marriage. I believe in marriage, but you definitely shouldn’t expect it by itself to give you the happiness you desire. If you’re seeking happiness by making more money and already make $75,000 or more per year, research demonstrates that it won’t do it either.
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So, is there anything you can do to create happiness in your life? Yes! If you are realizing that you need to create more happiness in your life — or even some at all, you need to incorporate these aspects into your life. Warning, though: These things are easy if you’re already happy, but harder if you’re miserable.
We, as humans, were made to be in a relationship with each other. Babies struggle if they are not touched. Even if all of their other needs are met, without human connection, they literally DIE. This is an extreme example of how crucial connection is for humans.
Even though you may be connected as a wife and mother, women need a sense of community with other women for support in everyday life. As a busy woman, it can be hard to find the time for friendship or to even see the benefits of it in your life.
I get it. You have so many other obligations, but we know that fostering these connections in your life increases your sense of overall happiness and satisfaction with your life. Everyone benefits from that.
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Just move your body regularly — you don’t have to be a gym rat. Pick something you enjoy doing. More importantly, pick a time when you will actually do it. Some people exercise well first thing in the morning. Others work well in the middle of the day.
A recipe for success is to know your body and pick a time and activity that works best for you. Your body was made to move. Invest in movement. Do it with a friend, and you’ve just killed two birds with one stone!
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Gratefulness can sometimes be as simple as changing the story you tell yourself about your circumstances (remember the food example earlier?). When you highlight the good, the bad fades into the background. Happiness is a choice, and it begins with a paradigm shift in your thought process about yourself in the world.
Find something every day to be thankful for. Write it down, even if it is just a word or a quick sentence. The process of writing moves your thoughts from short-term memory to long-term memory and increases their impact on your brain.
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You need one thing that you enjoy so much that when you do it, you lose time. Sometimes we spend so much time focusing on what we need to do or what we feel we should be doing that we neglect the things that we are actually good at doing.
When we aren’t trying to compare ourselves to others, we will naturally gravitate to those things we actually do well. There is so much intrinsic joy in living life in our zone. That intrinsic joy decreases our blood pressure and creates happiness hormones that bring fulfillment to our lives. If you can get your family involved in your hobby, even better.
Doing something for others gets your mind off your own problems for a while. It gives you a chance to put your life in perspective. Research has demonstrated that those who give, volunteer, or practice some form of altruism are happier and have reduced rates of depression, even if they previously suffered from depression.
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Getting your kids involved in handing out food to the homeless or making care packages for those in need is a wonderful opportunity to model happiness-creating activities for them, and you are helping the world in the process.
The beautiful thing is that these are easy to incorporate into your life. Just add one at a time. Once you realize that you jumped off the happy train a few stops ago, you can get off, change direction, and make choices that create happiness again in your life. Remember, happiness is a choice and not greatly affected by life situations.
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Dr. Zoe Shaw is a licensed psychotherapist and relationship expert with over 20 years of experience who consults with clients from all over the world. She has been featured in Recover Today, Weight Watchers, The Oprah Magazine, Forbes, Vox, and more.
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