Does Your Inner Diva Have Low Self-Esteem? 6 Sneaky Signs That Even Your Horoscope Wishes You’d Notice!
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Ever wonder why that nagging voice inside won’t quit whispering you’re not quite enough? Well, here’s a cosmic plot twist for you: low self-esteem doesn’t crash onto the scene at awkward puberty or the dreaded first day of school—it sneaks in way before your kid can even spell the word “self-esteem.” It’s like the universe decided to drop this baggage on us early and let it shadow our grown-up lives with subtle sabotage. A groundbreaking study from the University of Washington reveals that by age five, kids have a self-image as solid as any adult’s — talk about an early astrologer’s forecast! Whether it’s the absence of love, affirmation, or just a little too much “tough love,” childhood sets the stage, and that script tends to stick. So, if your inner horoscope feels more “doom and gloom” than “inspired star power,” you might just be living with the sneaky effects of low self-worth—wrecking your job vibe, romance, and even those everyday choices without you catching the shade. Ready to decode the signs and reclaim your cosmic mojo? LEARN MORE.
Lugging around your low self-esteem, self-worth, and negativity is dangerous to more than just your public confidence. The effects ripple through every nook and cranny of your life, eating away at it with inconspicuous malevolence. Believe it or not, self-esteem, self-confidence, or an inferiority complex don’t assemble during puberty. They don’t even wait for a child to be able to read the words “self-esteem.”
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Contrary to popular opinion that it develops after a child starts school, self-esteem takes root much earlier. By the time your confident little Einstein marches into his first day of kindergarten, he has a memorable — albeit unarticulated — sense of himself. A groundbreaking study from the University of Washington found that by 5, children have a sense of self-esteem comparable in strength to that of an adult.
Perhaps the most compelling finding was that this early-developed self-esteem remains stable across the individual’s lifespan. It is critical in how children form social identities and, in this way, is foundational for life. The effects of low self-esteem in adulthood can be traced back to childhood adversity.
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The child may have suffered an absence of necessities — love, affirmation, guidance, protection, limits — or had hurtful experiences. Sometimes, even both. Parents don’t have to be perfect to ensure their child emerges out of toddlerhood with a healthy sense of self. “Good enough” parenting just requires that a child is loved and valued for who they are and not for their behavior.
Author Dr. Marcia Siroto, M.D., said, “Children take things personally, so what they experience informs their identity.” As a child grows, their established sense of self — good or bad — sticks along for the ride. By the time the child is old enough to start making decisions, building complex relationships, and holding jobs, it reveals lasting effects. Thus, it makes it even trickier to learn how to be more confident and see more value in one’s self-worth. The effects of low self-esteem aren’t always glaring. But the negativity surrounding it can hijack your life, relationships, and jobs without you even realizing or understanding why.
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A lack of confidence and sense of worth can make you wishy-washy on even the simplest things. Something as simple as deciding on a place to eat can become a palm-sweating, opinion-seeking dilemma. And that’s before you change your mind. Translate that to situations that require quick, resolved decision-making, and you can see how you will hand over your life’s compass to others.
A 2023 study confirmed that lower self-esteem is associated with higher levels of indecision, and that this plays out not just in big life choices but in everyday situations too. Over time, that pattern trains you to hand over the steering wheel to other people, even when it comes to decisions that should be yours alone.
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Fear of ruffling feathers by expressing your own opinion will only put you at war with yourself. One of the classic effects of low self-esteem is a tendency to exaggerate or catastrophize out of fear of confrontation. Remember Chicken Little? “The sky is falling! The sky is falling!”
You don’t have to be a bully to stand up for yourself, your opinions, and your values. And no, the sky won’t fall. The same low self-esteem that can leave a child emotionally wounded and isolated on the playground can spell disaster for an adult. How will you be able to say “no” and mean it? Or hold your own during a difficult meeting with your boss?
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If you have low self-esteem or an inferiority complex, you are prone to believe that you are unworthy of love. You may believe that no one with the qualities you desire in a mate would have an interest in you. You accept mediocrity, or possibly worse, out of resignation to your perceived undesirability.
When you don’t believe you’re worthy of love, you’re far more likely to accept a relationship that confirms that belief. Research from the University of Waterloo found that people with low self-esteem are more likely to stay in unhappy relationships because they avoid voicing concerns or addressing problems with their partner.
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Your conversation with yourself may sound something like this: “People with great jobs are (fill in the compliments) and have (fill in the advantages). I’m not good enough, smart enough, experienced enough to do (fill in the job description). I’m not worthy of a position that high up or an income with that many zeros.”
One study even found that low self-esteem predicts future unemployment, particularly for those in higher-skilled occupations where confidence and self-advocacy matter most. It’s a cycle that feeds itself. You stay stuck, which confirms your belief that you’re not capable of more.
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A person with a healthy sense of self doesn’t need to avoid difficult feelings and situations. They can handle reasonable frustration and disappointment with problem-solving skills and acceptance. An adult without that strong sense of self is especially vulnerable to finding ways to escape what feels unbearable.
Studies have found that individuals with low self-esteem tend to adopt passive, avoidant coping styles focused on escaping emotions rather than active, problem-solving strategies. This makes hard feelings feel unbearable, and when something feels unbearable, you look for a way out.
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One of the major effects of low self-esteem is fatigue. In the context of feeling unworthy, unconfident, and incapable, sleep can become a way of avoiding life. After all, if you don’t engage, you don’t risk people being unhappy with you. You don’t risk messing things up. You don’t risk failing.
Chronic fatigue can also be a sign of depression. If left unmitigated, depression can have far-reaching emotional and physical consequences. The effects of low self-esteem are pervasive, even if they are sneaky and tough to pin down.
The fact that self-esteem takes root at such a young age is a reminder to love children into a healthy sense of themselves. It’s also a reminder to love yourself in healing practices so your self-esteem doesn’t cause you to miss your life.
Lisa Lieberman-Wang is a relationship expert and author, and has been seen by millions on ABC, NBC, CBS, FOX, and CW as their Success Strategist, Relationship, & Breakthrough Expert. She’s spoken on some of the most prestigious stages, including Harvard University, the Navy, Women Leading the Future, and more.
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