GET YOUR FREE MOVIE & TV PASSWORD AND START BINGING!

COSMIC CINEMA

CLICK FOR YOUR AI SUGGESTIONS

GET YOUR FREE VPN TODAY!

**And Browse The Internet Anonymously To Protect Your Privacy.**

Unlock The Secrets Of Your And/Or Your Favorite Friend/Celebrity's Birth Chart Below!

Numerology Meets Netflix: Get Your Daily Dose of Cosmic Cinema Suggestions Powered By Our AI Astrologer. Find The Show Or Movie You Were Meant To See!

CLICK BELOW TO GET YOUR FREE MOON READING!

Is Your New BFF a Secret Snake? 4 Sneaky Questions That’ll Spill the Tea on Their Trustworthiness!

Added on December 8, 2025 inASTROLOGY CARDS

Ever get that sinking feeling when someone drops the classic, “Can I be brutally honest with you for a minute?”—and you just know the verdict’s about to sting worse than Mercury retrograde messing with your texts? Yeah, receiving criticism is like decoding cosmic signals: tricky, occasionally painful, but wildly necessary if you want to keep evolving. Not everyone’s feedback is created equal, though. Like picking the right star sign to vibe with, trusting the right critic can make all the difference between feeling trashed and feeling truly elevated. So how do you figure out who’s bringing the constructive light and who’s just raining on your parade with a savage honesty that’s more brutal than truthful? Elizabeth Gilbert, yes that Eat, Pray, Love Elizabeth Gilbert, dishes on four sharp questions you absolutely need to run your critics through before letting them have a say in your creative or personal orbit. Ready to navigate the galaxy of opinions without crashing? LEARN MORE .

Learning how to receive criticism is one of the hardest, yet most rewarding things you can do for yourself. It’s important to try and see your effort or work with a more discerning eye, and sometimes that’s hard to do without another person whose opinion you trust.

But just how can you figure out who it is you should trust to give you their thoughts? We’ve all had at least one person in our lives who’s gotten that look on their face before they wind up and say, “Can I be brutally honest with you for a minute?”

Before you even know what they’re going to say, you know you aren’t going to like it. Probably because they’ve done this in the past, and each time you came away a blubbering mess, feeling worse about yourself than you’ve ever felt before in your life.

A lot of the time, the people who actually want to weigh in on decisions in your life are the ones who always make you feel worse when they’re done. Of course, some people will do everything they can to tear you down and make you feel like you’re not good at anything. Sometimes, these people tend to come packaged with the pre-warning label of being “brutally” honest.

According to Elizabeth Gilbert, the author of Eat, Pray, Love, however, those people tend to be far more “brutal” than “honest” with their critiques. Surprisingly enough, we may end up going back to those people for years because we feel that they’re just being “honest,” even though every time they speak, it hurts us.

So just how can you determine who is worthy of your attention or whose opinion you should actually listen to about your life or work? Well, Gilbert had some ideas of her own about that.

She believes that there are 4 specific questions that you need to ask yourself before you allow someone to weigh in on your work. Not everyone in your life should get a say on the things that you’re doing, and to figure out who deserves that say-so, you’re going to need some criteria to make sure that you’re not allowing someone to bring you down unnecessarily.

Wondering if someone’s trustworthy? Run them through these 4 questions:

1. ‘Do I trust this person’s taste and judgment?’

This is important! If you don’t think that this person is a good judge or that they make poor choices, what are you doing listening to them? If you already find someone’s judgment questionable, then why are you going to ask them to give an opinion on something in your life?

2. ‘Does this person understand what I’m trying to create here?’

woman who is wondering if someone is trustworthy as questions if woman is understanding what she is trying to create Raisa Kanareva / Shutterstock

If you’re working on something, whether it’s a creative pursuit like writing a book or even a love or work matter, if the person you’re asking for advice or opinions doesn’t care or get what you’re trying to say, then you might just be barking up the wrong tree. Might want to put that one to rest for the future.

3. ‘Does this person genuinely want me to succeed?’

The importance of this might be lost on some people, but it really is crucial. If you’re asking someone for advice and they either don’t care what happens to you or don’t think it’s actually important, then they could end up giving you very bad advice.

And this could hurt your endeavors for the future very easily. Always be certain that the person you’re asking has your best interests at heart.

4. ‘Is this person capable of delivering the truth to me sensitively and compassionately?’

man who is wondering if other man is trustworthy as he questions if this person is capable of delivering truth to him Krakenimages.com / Shutterstock

In other words, if you’re going to leave the table crying when you’re done talking to them, it should be with tears of joy. Someone who is “brutal” isn’t necessarily honest with you.

More for You:

They might just have negative critiques that will hurt your ability to move forward with a project or a major decision in your life. You should always look for advice from someone who can tell you what they think in a manner that doesn’t leave you a heartbroken, crying mess for two days afterward.

Merethe Najjar is a professional writer, editor, and award-winning fiction author. Her articles have been featured in The Aviator Magazine, Infinite Press, Yahoo, BRIDES, and more.