7 Secret Habits Social Butterflies Swear By That’ll Make You The Life of Any Party (Even If You Hate People)
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So here’s the deal — you’ve got your ride-or-die crew who’ve stuck with you through thick and thin, but sometimes, just sometimes, you’re itching to expand beyond the usual suspects . Maybe you moved, maybe your pals aren’t on board the new hobbies train, or maybe you’re just craving some fresh faces to stir the pot. But making new friends as an adult? Well, that’s about as easy as convincing Mercury in retrograde to play nice — a total cosmic challenge. Sure, some people seem to attract friends like bees to honey, effortlessly, but for the rest of us mere mortals, it’s a little more hustle than happenstance. Lucky for you, I’ve chatted with the experts and rounded up 7 golden habits that social butterflies swear by to make friends wherever they go — pulling back the curtain on their secret sauce so you can swipe their moves and maybe, just maybe, find your own friend radar. Intrigued? LEARN MORE.
At this point in your life, you probably have a core group of friends who have seen you through the good times and the bad. But sometimes, you just want to branch out a little.
Maybe you’re looking for a new friend or two to do some activities that your other friends aren’t into. Maybe you moved to a new city and want to find some new friends in your area, or maybe you just want to expand your social circle a little. Whatever it is, making new friends as an adult can be kind of hard.
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Of course, some people seem to make friends effortlessly, which is great for them. For the rest of us, it takes a little more work. With that in mind, we consulted several experts on the habits of people who make friends easily and collected a list of habits you should steal for yourself.
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Whether you’re at a party, waiting in a dressing room line, or taking your kid to the playground, talking to the people around you guarantees you’ll at least have a conversation, which could lead to a friendship.
“Reaching out to others is a necessary first step to making new friends,” Dr. William Chopik, a social-personality psychologist and assistant professor at Michigan State University, explains. “Some of the most superficial relationships, which later grow into more meaningful ones, start with people sharing basic interests, hobbies, opinions, or aspirations. You won’t know any of these things without first talking to people.”
So, walk up to someone who looks interesting and start talking. You may be surprised where it leads.
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Clearly, sometimes you’ve got to take a call or answer a text. But if you’re constantly using your phone as a social crutch, it sends a message to other people that you’re occupied, relationship psychologist Dr. Karin Anderson Abrell says., “It tells everyone else in the room, ‘I don’t need to be here, and I have no interest in connecting with your people,’” she says.
It’s also a good idea to keep your phone away when you’re having a conversation, Dr. Chopik says. “There have been a few studies on how annoyed and upset people get if you are on your phone while trying to engage in a conversation with them,” he says.
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You’ve probably experienced this yourself: Talking to someone who is repeatedly negative is kind of a turn-off and makes you automatically feel like you have to cheer them up. “Being positive is just huge,” Dr. Anderson Abrell says.
That doesn’t mean you have to be fake, but striving for a warm, friendly attitude when talking to people and about yourself can go a long way, she says.
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“Everyone wants to be heard, to share their intimate information, and to feel understood by another,” Dr. Gail Saltz, a psychiatrist and host of The Power of Different podcast says. So ask questions and actually listen to the answers.
“Just listen and then reflect on what you heard and maybe even the emotion that you heard,” Dr. Anderson Abrell adds. “People end up feeling validated and heard.”
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Sure, you want to be polite and respectful, but being friendly and warm right off the bat “creates an easy sense of familiarity,” Dr. Saltz explains.
Dr. Anderson Abrell concurs. Oftentimes, it can help put the other person at ease and help them feel more comfortable around you, too, she notes. It can be as simple as wearing an easy smile, walking up to someone, and saying, “Hey, how’s it going?”
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This does a few things, Dr. Saltz says: It shows you’re confident (which people are drawn to), it shows you want to engage with people (since you’re not holed up in a corner with a friend), and it shows that you’re curious about things, which is appealing.
You’re also just more likely to meet like-minded people you’ll click with when you hit up a workout class you’re interested in or an art group, Dr. Anderson Abrell says.
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This is bigger than you think. Smiling and being genuine about it “has a contagion [effect] and makes the other person feel a little happier,” Dr. Saltz says. “That feels good to them and therefore makes them attracted to you.”
A smile “can disarm a lot of people,” Dr. Anderson Abrell adds. “It’s a powerful tool” that makes you more approachable.
Korin Miller is a freelance writer and editor. She has been featured in Yahoo Entertainment, Buy Side WSJ, Forbes, and more.
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