5 Sneaky Habits That Turn Your Favorite Human Into a Total Nightmare as They Age—Astrology Explains Why!
Added on August 22, 2025 inASTROLOGY CARDS
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Ever fallen head over heels so fast you swear your partner must be a Mercury-in-Venus miracle? At first, they’re practically your dream package—smart, dazzling, and effortlessly perfect. But here’s the cosmic kicker: that initial glow can blur the view, making us overlook the shadows lurking beneath all that charm. It’s like the stars aligned just to play a trick, wrapping us in rose-colored glasses when, in reality, every love story has its hidden plot twists. Sure, it’s tempting to clutch onto illusions instead of facing red flags, but trust me, ignoring those warning signs can lead straight into emotional black holes darker than a Pluto transit. So, before Cupid’s arrow turns into a cosmic prank, let’s unpack five habits that make people increasingly harder to be around as they age—because, much like the shifting zodiac, people evolve, and sometimes… not for the better. Ready to decode the drama? LEARN MORE
In the beginning, we tend to see the partner through rose-colored glasses. He or she is everything we’ve dreamed of: intelligent, talented, beautiful, our perfect match. All these things might be right about our partner. But to avoid a lot of emotional suffering — for ourselves and the other person, we should evaluate their positive and negative sides.
Unfortunately, a lot of people prefer illusions over the truth. And for them, mentioning any red flags that indicate someone is becoming difficult to be around is a sour point not to be discussed. But not recognizing these problematic habits can lead to serious and traumatic consequences that can cause someone to inadvertently become more isolated from those they love most.
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The first and foremost reason for a breakup is the inability of the partners to handle issues together. Here is how Erika Ettin, a dating coach, explains the problem: “I’d say the one major red flag in a person’s behavior that may indicate that the relationship won’t work is the unwillingness to talk through issues, big or small. All couples have disagreements. That’s perfectly normal and healthy.
But it’s how you handle those disagreements that can make or break things. Does your partner walk away? Shut down? Place all the blame on you? Throw a tantrum? These are all red flags.”
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The problems hardly ever wreck the ship of our relationship. What actually can be is whether or not we talk about them and how we solve them.
According to Ettin, “in a good relationship, a couple can and will talk through issues, listening to the other person’s point of view and expressing his or her own. No one needs to win or lose. It’s about expressing how something makes you feel and being heard. Communication is key.”
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Catenya McHenry, a journalist who wrote the book Married to a Narcissist, explains the narcissist’s nature: “Narcissists are void of empathy. They don’t believe they are wrong about anything, and they will constantly feel victimized, accusing you of attacking them when you’re just expressing your feelings in a situation.”
Here is what she says about having a relationship with such an individual: “One major red flag in relationships is when everyday life, events, conversations, and basic interactions are frequently about that person, where there is constant manipulation and abuse of power over you.”
So, if your partner becomes manipulative, remember you should take measures. Here is an example of abusive narcissistic behavior:
“For instance, you could confront the person you’re dating about something they did or said that hurt you. Rather than listening to your concern and apologizing, they will manipulate and flip the conversation, telling you all the things you’ve done to hurt and upset them. This scenario shows signs of narcissism, and things only get worse the more time you spend together. They don’t care about you and your concerns; they only care about themselves. ”
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And who needs a partner like that?
That is a tricky one. Very often, emotional abusers try to justify their actions with the differences in your character and their character. But this is just an excuse. Should anyone start disrespecting your boundaries and abusing you, you’d better leave them:
Here are some examples that Lisa Aronson Fontes, a psychologist, gave in her book Invisible Chains: Overcoming Coercive Control in Your Intimate Relationship.
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Elinor Greenberg is a psychologist who wrote the book Borderline, Narcissistic, and Schizoid Adaptations: The Pursuit of Love, Admiration, and Safety. Below is a short extract of the book. It explains this issue perfectly:
“Whatever people have done in previous relationships, they are likely to do again. That means that if you listen carefully to how your new lover describes his or her essential past relationships and how he or she speaks about their exes, you can learn a lot about how this person is likely to treat you.”
“When people describe all of their exes as terrible people and put all the blame on them for the relationship’s failure, this is a red flag for me. It practically shouts: ‘I cannot take any responsibility for whatever went wrong. I have not learned anything from these relationships. It is totally up to you to make our relationship work.”
And that doesn’t speak well of your partner, does it? Here is what else Greenberg says:
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“It is also likely to mean that they are unable to see people in an integrated and realistic way. When they started dating these other people, they probably saw them as highly desirable and all good. Now that these relationships are over, these same people are all bad. Either they have a knack for picking the worst people with whom to be in a relationship, or they are seeing all of these people in a very distorted way.”
Unfortunately, the perspective of a relationship with such a person is not promising. That is why, according to Greenberg, “If they could not see anyone before you realistically or make any of these relationships work, they are unlikely to be able to do it with you.”
That is the opinion of Perpetua Neo, a psychologist, an expert in toxic relationships: “There is a psychological phenomenon known as the ‘confirmation bias,’ where we are inclined to discard all evidence that does not align with our views and only keep those that do. And with a potentially toxic person, they have worked to create a false positive impression to worm their way into your heart,” she explains.
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If our partner is toxic, our brains might work overtime to convince us that this is not the case, even when we know it is. Read on to see how this works:
“So even if they do something bad or say something that’s off, you may think, ‘He’s only this way because he went through X.’ This is when ticking boxes of ‘Is he rude to the waiter?’ ‘Is he nice to his family members?’ He could be all that — the sleekest toxic people are.
But underlying it, if he says things like, ‘So they’ll treat us better the next time,’ or he has a mean mouth towards some people, and if you find yourself justifying his transactional mindset or meanness, then it’s time to pause and step back.”
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Finally, it’s never easy to put an end to a relationship that we have hoped to turn into a serious one. But isn’t it better to be alone than badly accompanied?
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